This blog post is a call to action for caregivers, empaths, advocates, and community builders who often find themselves overextending in the name of love and service. It challenges the notion that being a good person means constantly saying “yes” and instead reclaims boundary-setting as a sacred and revolutionary act of self-love.

Drawing on the wisdom of bell hooks, the post emphasizes that true love requires accountability, presence, and the courage to set limits. It explores how brujería and ancestral healing can help break generational cycles of self-sacrifice by reinforcing self-respect, sovereignty, and energetic protection.

Ashley shares spiritual tools to fortify personal boundaries, including cleansing baths, candle work, and affirmations that strengthen one’s energy field. These practices serve as both protection and empowerment, reminding us that saying “no” is not rejection but an act of deep self-honoring.

At its core, this post is a reminder that choosing yourself is not selfish—it is necessary. It urges readers to pause before overextending, to check in with their capacity, and to embrace the discomfort that comes with prioritizing their well-being. Supported by their ancestors, they are called to break the cycle of over-giving and stand firm in their worth.

Mars brings THE ENERGY. It brings passion, ambition, conflict, tensions, and FIRE. Wonder how this 7-month transit will affect you?